Thursday, April 21, 2011

R is for Regret

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Once upon a time there was an 11-year-old girl who had a fight with her best friend. The next day she finds out the friend died in a house fire. I bet you're saying this is cliched, right... never getting the chance to say sorry is just an overdone plot. Unfortunately that little girl was me. I guess that's why I hate fights. I'm not passive, but I don't like leaving a situation in the middle of a fight.  

Regret is a part of life. Anyone that tells you they have absolutely no regrets then they're either very lucky or is not really living. Every choice we make has two or more outcomes, so there's always a possibility of thinking back and wondering "why did you choose that path".  It's what makes life interesting.

Same goes when reading and writing. It wouldn't be interesting if the character was always making the right choices, always winning, never wanting to look back and think about how things could be different. No one would want to read that. 

Regret is a part of life and it's how you choose to deal with that regret that makes the story more interesting. You can either learn or fall into the "would've, could've, should've" frame of mind... I choose to move on. There's no point with handing onto the past and the choices that I could have made.

So, do you have any regrets? Is there any moment you would like to go back and change?


Renae said...

I'm so sorry about your friend, what a horrible situation for a little girl to go through. You are so right though, I don't know that I've met anyone who doesn't live with some regrets. But like you said we have to learn from them and move on. Powerful post!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I'm sorry about your friend. You're right, if there's no regrets, that means we aren't really living.

Ani said...

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FilmMattic said...

Great post on the power of regret. Well-articulated point too. And I completely agree. Life loses its vivacity if every decision was deemed an emphatic success.

And nice blog!

Alleged Author said...

There are many things I wish I could go back and change. However, if I did then I wouldn't be who I am today. Just hope the alternate "me" isn't way better! :P

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